RANTTTTTTT!!!!!

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Subtitles ----------------------------------------------------------------- According to psychology people who always feel left out in a friend group, even though they get along with everyone are experiencing what's called the "floater friend effect” being everyone's friend but never their favorite. And if that hits you, then you already know. It shows up in small ways, asking “wait what happened” trailing a step behind in the hallway. Finding about plans after they were made. Feeling like you're always catching up to something you were never fully a part of. And the confusing part about this is that no one is actually being mean to you, everybody likes you. You get invited, you're just never the first one to call. But here is what I think is actually going on. Its not your fault, most people in friend groups are naturally going to be friendlier to people who are in the same classes, same schedule, same street. Then you got added to the friend group where people have more relationships towards one another than you. Learn to love yourself instead of the idea of other people loving you. Those get confused constantly because a lot of what feels like wanting [music] connection is really just wanting proof. Proof that you're worth choosing, that someone would pick you if they had options. And you can spend years chasing that, collecting validation from people who don't actually know you. But the version of you that already likes himself doesn't need the proof. He just wants company. Completely different energy. And you find that easier out doing something than sitting at home waiting to be chosen. Stop auditioning. You can't make someone love you by giving them more of what they already don't appreciate. But that's everyone's instinct. Something's off, so you give more. More effort, more patience, more of yourself. Like the problem is a quantity issue. You just haven't hit the numbers yet. I've done this, watched friends do it. It never works. Not once. Because if someone doesn't value what you're giving them, doubling it doesn't make it any more valuable. It just makes it cheaper. You've told them there's an unlimited supply and no cost to ignoring it. and you end up exhausted, resentful, and in worse position than when you started. The uncomfortable truth is that some people just don't value what you bring. Not because it isn't valuable, but because they're not the person for it. More was never the answer. Take it somewhere that counts Please, guys, girls, non-binary, etc. Love your self for who you are not for who people see you. Someone out there would love you for who you are.